Anyone who's taken a pysche or anthropology class knows of the social contract concept, simply put : it's the deal of rewards and repercussions on behavior in society.

We have personal ones as well between friends family significant others co workers etc.

The concept of this seems to be sliding as society grows more selfish and clueless. You know who someone is and what society asks for, don't conform, you know the costs. That's how things work, why throw a wrench in it? It's not making things better and some how it does make it worse, if that's possible.

While you'll always have moronic rights groups trying to pass a deviant behavior as the right or norm like the KKK or P.E.T.A. What the real problem I see is the personal contract under going this as well.

Why this I feel is more an issue is you have a lot more sway in a social circle then the whole group of us. For example we all know the KKK are a bunch of morons but, do we know Rick is moron for hating Bill for having a nicer car or not liking the home team? No, I'm not talking about high school drama of jealousy or fitting in. I mean it's gone past cheer leaders. Grown ups are doing this.

Our personal social contract should be simple, I'm me take me or leave me. Most people never get that gutsy but it's really just that simple. It makes life a lot nicer as well.

At work and locally I'm rather looked down upon as cold and business oriented. I do something you never see anymore I work before I play. Other people slack off and I'm not patting myself on the back for being me, I'm just how that is. I don't stay much later then needed even when I have time to. I just don't mess around when it comes to work.

I had a double mind blower the other week on someone. A female coworker asked me out and for my number. We aren't to date in office I stated that and reminded her I do not have a number to give out.

I end up in HR because of this? It wasn't official but they just wanted to remind me we work together I should be nicer. Nicer = breaking the rules? Yea, after around a 15 minute HR book speech of taking certain liberties to make the work place a happier environment I said "pays good that's why I'm here" shrugged my shoulders and walked out.

Now, why do I tell this story other then I found it amusing? It brings up irony, the only person who really needs to know socially what's going on didn't know my social contract. He's also the only one who has to really deal with me everyone else has the ability to take me or leave me as we don't do group projects. Everyone else has made the call already but the only one who needs to meets me for the first time to tell me to bend the rules? If he knew me like he should he'd not have wasted either of our time. I wonder if he bothered to check my file it does say "top producer".